How to handle rejection in gay dating

Dating in the gay community can be hard enough with all the apps and fast-paced communication. Add rejection and hurt feelings into the mix and you’ve got the perfect recipe for discouragement. Even one rejection can be enough to make you want to leave the gay dating scene for good.

All is not lost, however.

Don’t take it personally

First of all, you’re not everyone’s cup of tea. That’s not any fault of your own, but the nature of what it means to have preferences. If you’re chamomile and rejected by someone who prefers Earl Grey, you just need to find that special someone who prefers a more soothing, calm drink to the strong brew that wakes you up.

If someone rejects you, that says more about them than it does about you. You know you’re awesome, and for whatever reason, someone didn’t choose you. Discovering someone’s preferences takes time, so using a matchmaker like Beau Brummell Introductions can help you skip the “discovery” step and find someone with whom your preferences align.

Look on the bright side

Sure, this phrase is a little cliché, but there’s truth to it. Getting turned down sucks, and it’s one hundred percent okay to be upset. But if you’re rejected, you’ve been rejected for a reason. Imagine the alternative scenario: the person who rejected you doesn’t want to be with you but stays with you anyway. That’s not healthy for everyone involved.

The bright side of rejection (and yes, there is one) is that you are now free from a potential relationship that wouldn’t have worked in the first place. In a strange way, this rejection has saved you time, opening the door for another relationship that will actually make you happy in the future.

Change your approach

There is a myriad of ways to meet people. This means that if one method of meeting people isn’t working – or hasn’t helped you find a significant other – there are always more methods you can try. Dating apps are pretty common because of how accessible they are, but it can be hard to find someone who takes dating seriously on these apps.

One approach that has worked for many men in serious relationships is using a gay matchmaker. A matchmaker like Beau Brummell Introductions is a change from dating apps or meeting someone on your own because it uses its connections to thousands of people to help you find the right person for you. Using a gay matchmaker can help you avoid rejections altogether!