Does love happen naturally? Or does it require work?

You’ve probably seen it dozens of times in movies or TV shows – the perfect couple shares one, meaningful look, and they are immediately in love! It happened with Romeo and Juliet (and we all know that didn’t end well), and with Cinderella too (but we know that movie is filled with silly magic).

Is love really something that happens naturally, or is it something you need to put effort in? Does it come fully formed, or do you have to build it?

The truth is that it’s a little bit of both.


To find love, you first have to meet someone. A matchmaker can help with that, giving you potential matches based not on some algorithm, but on what they learn about you personally. They can help you with this because it is literally their business to learn about people and help them find a partner.

Making sure you are with someone who is compatible with you is crucial in building a solid relationship. A matchmaker knows that love will not just form out of nothing.

To illustrate, you might be the best baker in the world, but you will never be able to bake a cake if the only ingredients you had were tomato, mud, and PlayDough. You need the right ingredients to start with if you want to build a relationship that is solid, filled with love, and brings both of you happiness.


Similarly, even if you had all the best ingredients – gourmet sugar, the best quality flower, and fresh carrots – if you are a terrible baker, you will never be able to bake a good carrot cake. You need to know the correct order to bake a cake, how long you must bake it, and at what temperature.

A matchmaker can be a great tool to find you someone who is compatible, but it will take work after that to build a quality relationship. Just because you are matched does not mean you have found the one for you. You will have to work at it. You will have to make them the one.


It might seem daunting to consider romance work. It might even seem like an insult to the person you are meant to spend the rest of your life with. Love is supposed to be a whirlwind of fun, excitement, and beauty, with little challenge, right?

Well, no. Not at all.

Maybe that would be ideal – we would all love it if there was not challenge in life. But romance takes effort because anything that’s worth it in the world takes effort. It’s not a bad thing to admit it, it’s realistic.

Love might take effort, but it’s worth it. It’s worth the risk of pain you might feel, or the discomfort, or the time you will have to put into it. If your partner is the person for you – you won’t have to put in the work, but you will want to.

Baking a cake is worth the time and the challenge. Love is worth the time and challenge too. Remember, you need both a solid foundation and the hard work.

Two men in a loving embrace.Men hugging each other.