Planning for little ones

Before you get scared away by this title – no one is trying to talk you into having kids, at least not in this newsletter (though we can’t speak for your aunt or kind but nosey next-door neighbor). But little ones are, inevitably, something that will come up in a relationship. It can’t hurt to talk about them, right?

When you partner with a matchmaker to meet a significant other, little ones may be the last thing on your mind. Why add something to the mix of something that already works great? Adding something to your relationship, though, is common – and that doesn’t just refer to having human kids.


This is the big one, and people have different preferences on kids – even within the same romantic relationship. That’s why it is so crucial that you make sure you and your partner are on the same page when it comes to kids.

One good thing is that you can make sure you’re on the same page before your relationship even begins! It’s possible to communicate your thoughts on kids with a matchmaker, and they can take that preference into account when matching you with someone.


While a dog, cat, or hamster are not as big of a commitment as a human child – your animal little ones are still commitments. They, just like children, should be discussed. Talk about your hopes when it comes to pets, and if you do have a pet, share the responsibility.

Having a pet does not just mean having another animal in the house. A pet means responsibility – and when you share a house with your significant other, there are going to be plenty of overlapping responsibilities. Responsibilities can only get done with proper communication and a willingness to help the other person in the relationship.


You might be saying that plants are even less of a responsibility than kids and pets, and you’d probably be right – unless you’ve got some really thirsty ferns. But plants are little ones too, and they can teach us valuable lessons about our relationships.

Plants need to be nurtured, just like your partner does. Just like you can’t forget to fill up your plant’s pot regularly, you also have to fill up your partner. And just like a plant needs sunlight, your partner needs your brightness too. Sometimes, it might just be a smile or a pat on the shoulder. Know what their needs are and make sure they are taken care of.


Even if you don’t have pets, or kids, or plants, every relationship has some sort of “little one.” Maybe it’s the little tasks you need to do around the house or the hobbies you share. In many ways, these things you share can be the “little ones” you take care of.

Your little one could be the traditions that you and your partner do together – like going wine tasting, or hiking, or collecting antiques. Think about the small things that can help you and your partner grow closer together!

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