How do you plan a future with someone?
There are many professions involved in predicting the future – from mediums, to meteorologists, and statisticians. No profession, however, can ever accurately predict the future with one hundred percent accuracy. Mediums may misread the tea leaves, meteorologist fail to predict a storm, and statisticians can’t take every possible factor into account. Even a matchmaker can’t predict the future for you.
While a matchmaker can’t foresee anything, they can get to know you, and use that knowledge to help you match with someone who you are compatible with. It’s up to you to decide the future from there. But how?
Look where your priorities line up
If one of you wants to live around the world, while the other wants to settle down in a small town, it may take some discussion before you start planning your future with your significant other. So, look where you both line up so that you both end up happy.
Both of your dreams will rarely line up exactly, but look for where both of your dreams have something in common. There could be a city or a house that both of you love. There might be a part of town that makes both of you feel at home. Look for the overlap, and you and your partner can find happiness together.
Remember that home is anywhere you’re happy
Sometimes, we get caught up in the material aspects of our future. That may involve questions like What kind of kitchen counter? What color should the walls of our house be? What is my dream job?
Of course, all of these are important questions, but if you know you will be happy with any counter as long as it’s big enough, or any color as long as it’s bright enough, or any job as long as it makes you feel fulfilled, then don’t be too focused on the nitty gritty. If you are happy, that is the right future for you.
Talk honestly with each other
Talking about the future can be stressful. You might want one thing, while your partner wants another. You may disagree on what you both want for your future. But don’t let that get in the way of planning your future together.
Hiding how you feel about your future will only cascade into negativity in the long run. The truth about how you really feel will come out, and to your partner, if will feel like you were hiding something. Be open and honest about what you are looking for in a future with your partner, and that discussion will lead to happiness.
Be open to surprises
Like we mentioned earlier, no one, not even the best future-tellers, can predict the future one hundred percent. There will be curveballs and unexpected twists and turns along the way. So, be open to the surprises, and be prepared to face them with a partner whom you love.
You can also focus on the constants in your life – and one of those constants might be your partner. Your love for them, and their love for you, is something you can expect in life. It will give you the power to move forward, even when you don’t know what is going to happen next.
